Jane. Just jane

Self Confidence + tumblr url

0 Adorable | Wednesday, June 03, 2015 09:57

so, recently, one of my friend always complain that she has a thing that call 'social anxienty' and i just reply, oh thats bad, im sorry for you. i have nothing to say since i also lack of my confidence myself.

i was litterally torn of, since when i was a little i have a bad ' social skill ' and im changing to good now. so heres a lilttle bit story of my bad social skill and some tips how to change it. :)

so when i was around 5 or 6 - probaly 6, and i went for kindergarten. they always had this report card that contain your attitude, your learning, and also social skill. i always get A on those things unless social skill. i have hard time to interact with my teacher, interact with my friend because only one thing, i join them late, and it is really hard to try to comunicate without getting people judge.

the next year, primary school. i was getting bullied by my own bestfriend. but that does not make me realize that i should go away from her. i was wrong, she walk away from me left me just like that. the truth is i dont care.

but, even tho i have friends that are popular enough to consider in my school, my confiedence still on the bottom, im not that girl who people justy randomly approach. i was litterally that girl who make presentation and hiding while looking at the floor not look up and not talk. i was the shy-est (if that make sense) among my friends and i have hard times to make friends.

i always the girl you never pick to be friend with just because i always be annoying around a small group of friends. i was scared of society. i was not being good enough.

but believe me, it will get better and better one. like my situation, i found a friend. she help me a lot. being extrovert herself inspired myself to be like her. being the first who talk and dont care what people say. being the girl who give oponion without cares about anyone else judgement.

so here's some tips that may help you <3

the first thing is accept yourself, love yourself, pretend that you talk to other people when you are alone ( it might sound crazy - try it )

get inspired by people who actually know how to be on the society very well

if people talk shit to you, pretend they fart HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAH

smile a lot instead of just doing your 'real face'

talk to somebody to make you feel better!

so thats all for today! and and, i made a tumblr :) CLICK HERE

this will made your days better perhaps!

dont be afraid, of being afraid -grace helbig